Catch the Moments of Your Life
Has anybody been watching This is Us? It is probably the best American family-based drama since Brothers and Sisters and I love it. Every episode makes me weep. Last night in an episode, William – an older man who is dying of cancer – says to Olivia, a youngish, damaged and slightly frosty actress who is afraid to take a punt on love :
“I know it feels like you have all the time in the world, but you don’t. So stop playing it so cool. Catch the moments of your life, catch them when you are young and quick, because sooner than you know it, you’ll be old and slow and there will be no more of them to catch. And when a nice boy who adores you offers you pie, say thank you.” William, This is Us
This line made me stop, rewind and take it down (kudos to the script writers), because the sentiment is so apt, so obvious and yet something we forget every day. Sometimes we turn away from the moments of our life that are an invitation to take a chance, speak a truth, act in love, laugh, kiss someone or be enthusiastic about the rich joys that life offers up to us.
I always think it is worse when you are younger, the pressure to be collected and distant and not overly enthusiastic about anything for fear of getting it wrong seeps in to us at around 13 or 14 and stays for anything up to 10 years. That is until we hit our mid-twenties and realise, fuck we're not young for ever and there's pleasure to be had in making mistakes, seizing joys and fucking up royally and yes, not everyone is the same and yes we will probably hurt sometimes but isn't that the sweetness of being human.
So this TV show - like every other form of human creation done well - just sent me at the ripe old age of 31 a little reminder to catch those moments. What is the point after all of avoiding emotion and vulnerability for fear of pain... these are the marks of a life well lived.
Happy Valentine's Day.